Tuesday, August 22, 2006
A little hat etiquette
I was in the land of the great unwashed a weekago (a casino). If you wanted to do a study on the sad site of America, go to a casino. Boy do I miss the casinos in Europe, it's nice to see people dressed up and I don't mean their best NY Jets jacket! Anyway, at the casino I met up with my friends for a good dinner. The restaurant is one of the best they have (a steak place, actually pretty good food too) however, there in the middle of the dining room was a few guys wearing their baseball hats. Now I guess in this day and age that that is not a shock anymore, more people would not even notice it, that of course is sad. Now, I did see a bunch on men wearing baseball hats that morning at the breakfast restaurant, I think people thought it was ok because you could order off the menu OR buffet (eww, a buffet) but what makes ANYONE think it's ok to wear a hat at the dinner table of a nice restaurants (were did these people grow up)? Unless outside at a picnic or at a ball game one should remove their hat while dining. Proper table manners were some of the first thing we were taught as toddlers; how did so many people forget?
A quick reference I found was on Ask Andy about clothes (that is were I got the picture about and a few of the quotes below, although the "rules" are generic)
Men, TAKE that hat off! Hats are removed when inside, except for places that are akin to public streets, like lobbies, corridors, and crowded elevators (non-residential). In a public building (where there are no apartments) the elevator is considered a public area.
You may choose to remove your hat in a public elevator, but in the presence of a lady your hat must be removed. A gentleman takes off his hat and holds it in his hand when a lady enters the elevator in any building that can be classified as a dwelling such as an apartment house or hotel.
He puts it on again in the corridor.
A public corridor is like the street, but an elevator in a hotel or apartment house has the character of a room in a house and there a gentleman does not keep his hat on in the presence of ladies.
Hats are removed for the National Anthem, passing of the Flag and funeral processions, outdoor weddings, dedications, and photographs.
Removed hats are held in hand in such a way that only the outside and never the lining is visible.
Maybe this makes me a prude; trust me I'm not, but I think wearing your baseball cap at dinner is an insult to the people you are eating with and all those around you. Sitting down for a social meal is one of the main pillars of civilization, a major thing that separates us from animals, we need to remember that.